First of all marriage is a ministry. There is much more involved in it than selfish fulfillment. You see love should be centered on giving, not taking. I believe when you marry someone, you marry everything she or he has been. You inherit each other’s strengths, fears and weaknesses. It is impossible to pick the parts we want and leave the parts we don’t want. Please hear me my sister & brother in or out of the faith, it’s a package deal. God grants us the grace of ministering to each other and also to that little child that’s still in us. We shouldn’t become discouraged if we don’t see immediate change as well as it is for a small finger cut to heal. You see healing is a process and it takes time! God will give us the oils of compassion and the sweet wind of a sincere love to pour into the wounds of your spouse….

           Now stop and hear what the text is saying?

But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.  1corinthains 7:33-34

Now in verse 35 in the NIV version Paul the writer sums it up by saying: I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you but may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. 

 Marriage is so much a ministry that the apostle Paul teaches the married women she cannot afford to become to spiritual that she is unavailable for the ministry of marriage. The Greek word used there for “careth” means to be anxious about or to have intense concern. God says, “I want the married woman to be concerned about pleasing her husband and vice versa.” Many married women\Men who spend a great deal of their time fellowshipping with singles do not realize that their perspective and availability should be different. “Hear me out now, I’m going somewhere with this” saints our ministry as Sons & Daughters of the Faith as Husbands & wives do not begin in the mall, not in the nursing home, but in your own home and to each other. Now, I’m certainly not applying that a woman\Man should be locked in the kitchen or chained to a bed post. No I’m saying that priorities “need” to start in the home and then I know that the Lord smiles on that home and then the careers, vocations and ministerial pursuits. For the spouse who “careth for” God will anoint you to be successful in the ministry of marriage. “It’s not about how it use to be and how everyone else is doing it, NO! It’s all about what the word of the Lord say for we as saints to do”.  Please would you get rid of that ghostly past of how we use to have church and hear that fresh word that the Lord is speaking to you right now in this day and remember prayer don’t change things, but People with the help of the holy spirit do..

Until next time: peace be with you, not as the world but as the Lord gives…..