One of the things that make many women particularly vulnerable to different types of abuse and manipulation is their maternal instinct. You see wicked men frequently capitalize on this tendency in order to have their way with women. Mothers like to take care of little helpless babies. It seems that the more helpless a man acts, the more maternal you become. Women instinctively are nurturers, reaching out to needy people in order to nurture, love and provide inner strength. All too often these healthy desires are taking advantage of by those who would fulfill their own lusts. “The gift of discernment must operate in your life. Now don’t get me wrong because there are many wonderful men, but I must warn you against someone like King David’s son Amnon. He was dangerous…  Read the texts with me?

   And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother. And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said to her, “come lie with me, my sister.” And she answered him, Nay, my brother; do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel:  do not thou this folly… Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she forced her                                    and lay with her (2 Samuel 13: 10-12, 14).

    The number of cases of violence within relationships and marriages is growing at an alarming rate. The incidence of date rape is reaching epidemic proportions. The fastest growing form of murder today is within relationships. Husbands and wives and girlfriends and boyfriends are killing one another. Often women have taken to murder in order to escape the constant violence of an abusive husband or boyfriend. It is important that you do not allow loneliness to coerce you into Amnon’s bed.

    Another form of abuse is more subtle. There are those men “like myself at one time” who often coerce women into a sexual relationship by claiming that we\they love them. “Now check this out”? Deception is emotional rape!  It is a terrible feeling to be used by someone. Looking for love in all the wrong places leads to a feeling of abuse. A deceiver may continually promise he will leave his wife for his lover, and these woman hold on to that hope, but in reality it never seems to come true. He makes every kind of excuse possible for taking advantage of her vulnerability, follows blindly along until the relationship has gone so far that she is trapped.

Please Remember:  All too often, healthy desires are taken advantage of by those who would fulfill their own lust.  P.S. Don’t take the bait!!!